tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5673213591551717163.post3517260768854009420..comments2023-06-18T07:06:15.014-06:00Comments on Saloli Happenings: Steel MagnoliasReneehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13008383058383716770noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5673213591551717163.post-90665806780843403132009-05-10T21:31:00.000-06:002009-05-10T21:31:00.000-06:00I too have a very strong opinionated mother. One ...I too have a very strong opinionated mother. One of the things that I am most proud of is we have always kept communication open no matter how much we had argued or what had been said or how much we disagreed. I listen to Dr. Laura a lot. She says aske yourself is the person evil or just annoying. If your mom's opinion is a mere annoyance, I would call her up and say that you love her. (Of course Dr. Laura says if it's evil cut off all contact. I trust you know which one it is.) I wouldn't think you should have to apologize for anything. She should accept the fact that you are a grown woman with your own opinions and meet you on those terms. (I know that's probably easier written than done.) Even so, I concur with the other reply, that you may regret not calling her to at least say that you love her. If the topic comes up again, politely decline to discuss it and if you have to say it was nice talking to you and I just wanted to say I care and to make sure you were OK and I'll call again later, then so be it. That way you're not being rude, you know she's OK, and you've said the most important thing. My Mom always says she loves me when she signs off on the phone. I worry she's worried about not being around to say it again. On the flip side, it could just be continuance of that habit from when I was a teenager. No matter how hard we had fought, she would knock on my door at night and say I love you. I believe that her ability to swallow her pride and do that kept me out of a lot of trouble, and I appreciate that to this day.VM Sehy Photographyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03832671940615894037noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5673213591551717163.post-38118901100028250152009-05-09T07:53:00.000-06:002009-05-09T07:53:00.000-06:00Understand that winning and losing is not worth mi...Understand that winning and losing is not worth missing out on precious moments with people you love. Being right.. not worth it. Not worth it at all. In fact, if there is no way to have a relationship with your mother UNLESS you apologize and admit you were wrong... I would say do it. DO IT. You are wrong. In her eyes. That's the beauty of individual freedom... we're free to think differently from someone else. So, let her have her freedom... wrong and right, illusions. Admit that to yourself now, before it is too late. What matters is your love. Apologies, wrongness, rightness, stubborn mistakes. Who cares? Remember, one day your mama held a tiny baby and right and wrong didn't matter then. Why should it matter now? My mom is dead. I made huge mistakes. HUGE HUGE MISTAKES! BLAME, AVOIDANCE, HURT, FEAR. All things I could have done without.<br /><br />In a field beyond right and wrong, I will meet you there.<br /><br />Do you want to meet your momma there NOW or after she's dead? Think about it.New Unschoolerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05777297071125741594noreply@blogger.com